Men’s Rights Redditors agree: “It was empathy not misogyny that kept women from having careers.”

Originally posted on we hunted the mammoth:

Girl totally protected from the harsh world of work by nice men.

Girl totally protected from the harsh world of work by nice men.

Once upon a time, you may recall, women were denied the right to vote, couldn’t own property, were prevented from having careers of their own. Well, it turns out that all of these pesky “restrictions” weren’t really restrictions at all! They were protections that men provided women out of the goodness of their hearts. Men protected women from the terrible burdens of voting and property-owning and so forth, because they just cared about women so much.

Or at least that’s what a lot of Men’s Rights Activists seem to think, judging from this highly edifying discussion in the Men’s Rights subreddit.

rogersmith25 325 points 1 day ago  As I read /r/mensrights[1] more and more, it is becoming increasingly clear to me that the primary female privilege is empathy.  If a woman or girl is hurt, people care. If women are kidnapped, there is international media attention. If women are killed, their deaths are highlighted. If there is a conflict between a man and a woman, then people will jump in to defend the woman. If women are under-represented in an area, people want to take action to make things "equal".  If a man is hurt, it's funny. If men are kidnapped, we hear silence. If men are killed, their deaths are glossed over. If there is a conflict between a man and a woman, people will attack the man. If men are under-represented in an area, the president will call it a "victory" (as he did regarding the female majority in colleges).  Basically, people are programmed to have more empathy for women than men. 200 years ago, that empathy manifested itself in keeping women safe from harm by having them stay home to raise the family rather than die on battlefields or toil in mines. It was empathy not misogyny that kept women from having careers. Present-day, work is safe in offices, so today we have campaigns for women to earn more money and yet have more "balanced" lives where they can both raise a family and earn an "equal" career and, in other words, "have it all".      permalink     save     report     give gold     reply  [–]sierranevadamike 82 points 23 hours ago  wow... as a history major, I never looked at the "repression" of women throughout history as empathy rather than misogyny. I NEVER considered this option..  blew my mind..  thank youDroppaMaPants 45 points 22 hours ago  Restricting women to vote, hold property, etc. etc. would be a downside to the bad old days - but women always had empathy as a benefit.  Now that the bad old days are behind us, women maintained their old privilege and now hold disproportionate sway over men because of it.


It wasn’t just sierranevadamike who was “blown away” by rogersmith25’s comment: the Men’s Rights mods were so impressed that they reposted it and pinned it as the top post in their subreddit.

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Island CraP


Giant_Crab_by_TrendyDNASo, finally, the creepy gigantic CRAB that was supposedly stalking the Bahrain coastline turns out to be an ad agency’s teaser campaign, possibly for an amusement part or a crab STRUCTURE coming up in this (island) nation.

Journalists in Bahrain took the bait and were taken for a cheesy ride by the ad agency, who got all the publicity they wanted and more. Full length articles were published, sans any real probe. Some customary calls were made, and the clichéd “not available” for comment was attributed to the expert and the ad agency, who had the last laugh. Still journalist didn’t smell anything fishy!

A little close reading and the journalists would have noticed that the name of the “renowned Madagascan expert” professor Cigam Dnalsi, from the Marine Sealife Observation Centre (!!!) – who was being sent to investigate the claims – read ‘Island Magic’spelt backwards!

The news was prominently displayed, even with follow up stories, by all leading newspapers in Bahrain, and the unique “crab measuring up to 5m across” became a cheap publicity stunt, which defied all acceptable advertising practices and cardinal rules of journalism.

The mythical crabs that the advertising agency claimed to have been spotted weighed up to 50kg “about the same as the average 14-year-old boy” (ha ha).

Can’t believe this is what journalism has come to be in this part of the world! With anyone and everyone considered qualified to be a journalist, what else does one expect in terms of professionalism! RIP.

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Looking for Kanchen

Sindhu S.:

Heavenly dawn!

Originally posted on SinghCircle:


The peaks are covered with a thick blanket of cloud


The blanket of cloud is beginning to lift


Some of the peaks are now visible


All the five ‘summits’ are now seen but the cloud cover is rapidly coming in again

No trip to Sikkim, it is said, is complete without the sighting of the Kanchenjunga mountain. And that was true with us a well.
But there was a problem. We had arrived in the tiny Himalayan state in North Eastern India in the first week of July when it is the monsoons – and when the skies are cloudy with moderate to heavy rain most of the time!
We had even booked into The Red Mud Chalet, a beautiful ‘resort’ on a hilltop at Bermiok in the state’s Western district, which boasted of one of the best views of the third highest mountain in the world.
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Why Rob?

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Another death by depression. After a really celebrated life, why did Robbin Williams have to commit suicide? Could he not have used his celebrity status to help some noble cause, say children in need?

I know depression kills one’s reasoning first, and the delusion and loneliness it wraps around us in is unbearable. Having been there once, I also know, if you can really focus on someone who would benefit by you staying alive in those fleeting moments of clarity, death can be forever dumped into tomorrow.

Maybe someday soon I will write a book on beheading death.
As for now RIP Rob. But WHY?


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In good taste!

Sindhu S.:

The awesome ferns! Don’t they seem to say: What’s the hurry man, RELAX.

Originally posted on SinghCircle:

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Large ferns grow in the wild everywhere you go in the state

Though our week-long trip to Sikkim in North Eastern India was unique in many ways, what stuck me most was the organic vegetables and fruits produced in the state.
Sikkim, which was until 1975 an independent nation, will soon be declared a 100 per cent organic state and the use of chemical fertiliser and other add-ons in all forms banned. There is already a lot of awareness against their use and, if local people are to be believed, no one uses any chemicals anyway.
No wonder, then, freshly cooked vegetables are just different. They have a very soft and mellow taste and one where we can actually “feel” the flavours. It is a lot different from the plains where practically every vegetable and fruit available is laced with chemical fertilisers and preservatives.
Perhaps the rest of India will…

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Pilgrims’ progress…

20140715_13153620140715_15050220140716_10423420140715_143517Our trip to Sikkim was worth all the effort and money. At the end of the four days tour, mainly focused on the Buddhist circuit, we felt enriched in spirit, although weepy at times when listening to the soulful Tibetan chants.
I do not much understand the meaning of the chants, but I sure can say they are so POWERFUL, SOUL STIRRING and DIVINE.
I would want to visit Sikkim again, in winter, some day. But before that I want to visit Bhutan, I really do.

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Dancing in the Dark: 17 Thought-Provoking Songs By Women About Female Perception, Identity, & Body Image

Originally posted on HyperReality:

Mainstream pop music isn’t always about sex, love, and booze. More often than not, if you listen closer, it’s about so much more, especially where female pop singers are concerned.

This is a problem.

5 Stereotypes of Women in Pop Music:

  1. They’re shallow.
  2. Their music is shallow. And fluffy. And shallowly fluffy.
  3. All they sing about is men: how they can’t live without a man, how much they love their man, how dependent they are on men, how they can’t find love, how they can’t hold on to love, how love is the most important thing in the world. (I’m looking at you, Shania Twain.)
  4. They love to guy-bash. (Can you [male listener] pay their bills, can you pay their telephone bills, can you pay their automo-bills? They don’t want no scrubs.)
  5. There is a lack of substance that isn’t a problem in more male-dominated genres because it’s…

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Sikkim Holy Day

Sindhu S.:

Such beautiful moments, the never ending prayer wheels and the soothing “Aum Mani Peme Hum” made it a pure spiritual experience.

Originally posted on SinghCircle:

12345This is perhaps the most scenic and spiritual places we have ever visited. Buddha Park, in the southern district of India’s North Eastern Sikkim state of Sikkim, brings with it rare calm and peace and leaves one with a feeling of contentment and fulfilment.
We were not sure if the weather would hold but it did and as we drove along the hilly terrain from the state capital Gangtok to Pelling, there it was.
The majestic Lord Buddha stood hundreds of feet tall on top of a hill, surrounded by lush green gardens, hundreds of Tibetan prayer wheels and monasteries.
But as we made our way towards the entrance, a dense cloud cover enveloped the statue, the main attraction, and we wondered whether we could actually see Him in all His glory.
We were lucky because the cloud cover cleared within minutes and we could not only have a long…

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Face-off in Sikkim!

Sindhu S.:

So ‘real’ people!

Originally posted on SinghCircle:

I have been off regular blogging for the last couple of weeks, courtesy a brief vacation we took to “get away from it all.”
However, I have managed to “re-blog” some wonderful posts from the Reader, thanks to the hugely erratic mobile Internet connection in the remote areas where we decided to “get lost”.  for close to a week.
Though there are several very interesting stories to narrate and visuals to share from during our travels across the remote North East Indian state of Sikkim, I will start with these “faces” captured as we crisscrossed the tiny Buddhist Himalayan state.
20140715_112846The most striking was this image of an 85-year “monk” woman (top) who lives in a shack near the Rumtek monastery near the state capital Gangtok in East Sikkim and trudges up a steep hill every day, sometimes twice a day, for a meal at the monastery cafeteria. No one…

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The walk we did not want to end

Sindhu S.:

Never imagined the power of silence to be so captivating…

Originally posted on SinghCircle:


This is the pathway through the forest leading to the lake

We had travelled in Sikkim for four days and were, expectedly, tired. But we had to still visit the Khecheopalri (wishing) Lake, one of the holiest places on the Buddhist pilgrimage circuit.
Our guide and driver Dawa, promised it would be a “comfortable”  drive and we would not have to walk a lot but walk ort not, this was one pilgrimage we had to undertake. We had seen (photographs) and read so much, it had to be explored.DSC_8370True to Dawa’s claims, the drive was comfortable, and exceptionally beautiful, in light rain and among the clouds and lush greenery, scores of waterfalls, small houses dotting the mountainsides. The whole scene was so surreal, there was no time for discomfort or fatigue.DSC_8362The lake itself, originally known as Kha-Chot-Palri (meaning the heaven of Padmasambhava), is sacred for both Buddhists and…

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